Happy Friday!
This week, my shared care request got rejected. After 7 weeks of being ignored, my GP finally came back with a no, nice…cheers for that.
I've had loads of great advice from people on TikTok about how to fight it. Apparently, I might need to ask for a referral through Right to Choose, which seems ridiculous, but if that's what it takes. Still haven't managed to get a GP appointment, so that's top of the list this week.
Have you had any luck getting your GP to agree to shared care?
The other thing I've been working on is forcing some structure into my day. Planning out my calendar properly and doubling down on reminders. The work I do varies a lot day to day, so having some kind of plan has helped me get more done, however the real star of the show is the apple reminders app.
If you're not using it, try it. The second something comes into my head I throw it in there like "remember to do this newsletter at 7pm" and it works (you’re reading this arent you - there’s the proof) I've replaced the torch widget on my iPhone lock screen with it, so it's always one tap away. The more frictionless you make things with ADHD, the easier they are to actually do.
To finish, something I keep seeing that's been bothering me.
There is so much advice out there that tells people with ADHD to just start saying ‘no’ to everything. I think that's terrible advice.
Yes, some of us are chronic people pleasers (me) and probably do need to say no to things we reeeeally don't want to do. But our natural tolerance for risk and the fact that we lead with curiosity is a good thing.
I've been in rooms, had experiences and grown in ways I never would have if I'd just said no. It makes us learn faster, be more interesting and do more fun stuff. So please, don't take that advice blindly. Next time something sounds interesting and scary, that’s exactly the sign to say ‘fuck it, yes’.
Have a great weekend and week ahead.
Alex
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